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Thursday, January 8, 2015

The Post We Didn't Want to Write

 
Norbert Nicholas Buglino-Dutcher July 2002-January 8, 2015


It is with great sadness that my husband and I had to say goodbye to our dear boy on the morning of January 8.  His body was failing and the nasal cancer was clearly so aggressive that the steroids where having no effect.   Norbert was not eating, not even chicken (his favorite), and he was having trouble walking and struggling to breathe.  His end was peaceful and we were with him and told him we loved him.  He had 12 and a half wonderful years and we are so greatful for that.   We are also greatful that the end was quick and he suffered only briefly.  He had a wonderful last Christmas.

I hope this doesn't offend anyone but I am not a traditionally religious person, though I respect all religions greatly.  My beliefs are best summed up by the Iris De Ment song let the mystery be:



As such I am not sure that I will "see" Norbert gain, nor is his Dad.  However, we are both comforted by the fact that Norbert is always with us because in the 12 and a half years he shared his life with us he made us into better people.  We adopted Norbert from a high kill shelter when we were 24 years old and we are now in our late 30s, he truly helped make us the people we are.   Norbert was a constant role model for me in his sweetness, loyalty, patience, kindness, and freedom from worry.   In moving past his loss I want only to strive to be more like him, and to live more as he did, day by day.  

We will miss our boy every day but we will move forward and try to be as happy as he was and as he would want us to be and we will soon share the love we had for him with another dog, most likely a pug as we truly feel that Norbert was an "undercover pug."  




We will be taking the next few weeks off from blogging to process our loss and to move forward but we will be on facebook.  Thank you all for your love and support it means more to us then you can ever know.


 
 

 
 


Note you may notice this post is different from what was here yesterday I don't know why bot blogger ate our original tribute post and when I checked it this morning big chunks of it were missing.  I couldn't let that be as I need a memorial for my boy I am afraid this one is not as good as the original, but of course no memorial would ever be fitting.  

43 comments:

  1. Though we knew it was on the cards....still sad here. Have a restorative break...enjoy those 12+ years of memories. He sounds like a real love. Hugs from us.

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  2. My heart is heavy for you all today. I love the thought that Norbert was an undercover Pug! I am sad that I did not get to meet him in person, but feel that I knew him thru you! How wonderful the love and joy of all these years he gave you and you to him! The love of a dog...like no other. xoxo

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  3. Hugs to both of you. He was a well loved pup and I bet he knew it.

    Monty and Harlow

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  4. I'm in tears. What a beautiful and moving tribute to your love with Norbert. So, so sorry to both of you for your loss.

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  5. I am so very sorry. While no words can heal your pain right now, time and happy memories will help.

    Say not in grief
    "He is no more"
    but live in the thankfulness
    That he was....
    Hebrew proverb

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  6. My tears are falling for you today. I know how much you loved your boy. he had a most wonderful life with you and left you with many years of good memories. We love the picture of Norbert and Weasley.
    love,
    LInda
    Bailey, Hazel & Mabel (our new baby)

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  7. So very sorry. Dear Norbert had a good life and was fortunate too to live with a family who knew when to let go.
    Sending love and hugs as you adjust to losing such a cherished companion.
    Gail and Bertie.
    PS It's always a pleasure to listen to Iris DeMent. She's not that well known in the UK but I'm a big fan.

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  8. So sorry to hear about Norbert. Sounds like he had a really wonderful life with you. Praying for both of you. Hugs from me, licks from Blueberry.

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  9. My deepest sympathy on your loss. Take comfort in the fact that you gave him a very good life with a lot of good memories to get you through the tough times.

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  10. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved Norbert. May you find peace at this difficult time.

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  11. Awww sweetie, I am so sorry to hear this. Its so easy to fall in love with our furbabies and then they stay with us for such a short amount of time. I don't what my life would be like without Sophie since she was my first baby. I wish your entire family all my best. Hugs!

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  12. We didn't follow Norbert. You can't follow everybody otherwise it would be more than a full time job. While we didn't know Norbert, we do know what you're enduring. We made the same decision for out 12¼ year old rescue Scottie, Kyla, who was the heart and soul of our family. Now we're crying again but it is better to have known them than not to have them been part of us.

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    1. I forgot to mention that Kyla had melanoma and went downhill quickly. It was only three weeks ago yesterday that she left us.

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    2. So very sorry to hear about Norbert. May you both carry his memory in your hearts.
      Sincerely,
      Stewey and his mom

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  13. Lovely words.......he will be missed.
    Stella rose and momma

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  14. You loved him enough to let him go peacefully. He will always be in your heart.

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  15. The song that said the words,, was beautiful.
    Test in peace Norbert
    love
    tweedles

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  16. You have my deepest sympathies. I am so sorry.

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  17. Oh Katherine, I am so sorry to read sad news about your sweet Norbert. He did have a wonderful life in his warm home with his caring family. He was so lucky to have you who love him so much and appreciate how great he was. I'm sure he was a great role model for you. We learn a lot from our fur babies and they do make us better people. I'm glad he didn't suffer long and you could be with him to say good bye. I miss his beautiful smile. I hope time and happy memories help your heart heal. Hugs, Tamago

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  18. Crikey ....... I am so sorry to hear of this. My thoughts are with you all. It is so difficult to lose the ones we love but what wonderful memories they leave us with.

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  19. We are saddened to read about Norbert. May you be blessed with sweet memories of his life with you. He entered heaven when he came to live with you and your family.

    Redberry Cottage

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  20. I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you gave Norbert the best life possible which you should be very proud of. I wish you and your family all the best in this sad time.

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  21. We are so sorry for your loss,these things are never easy,but the pain will lessen in time.I am not religious either but I do believe that when its our time to live this world life doesn't end here we just move on the the next stage of our journey some call it heaven or the rainbow bridge to me its evolution,so one day I am sure you will see Norbert again but he will always be with you too in you memories and hearts,xx Rachel and Speedy

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  22. Hari Om
    Nothing blankets loss more softly than love and remembrance - you surely have lots of beautiful things to look back on. All Blessings for your healing... YAM-aunty xxx

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  23. Sending you lots of loves and hugs at this very sad time
    Loves and licky kisses
    Princess Leah xxx

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  24. I am so sorry. This is a lovely post. I find solace in Emmy Lou Harris' tribute to her dog, Bonaparte:

    When we lose them we'll never find
    Anything stronger than the ties that bind.

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  25. It's not easy to find words... I can only share my tears with you for Norbert... I'm so sorry and I send you a big hug ...
    Easy Rider

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  26. We are sorry for the loss of your precious Norbert. A warm hug, purrs and tail wags of comfort..

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  27. There are no words to alleviate your grief but know that the people that loved Norbert and you share your broken heart. Take the time to heal and bless you.

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  28. Norbert was such a wonderful boy and we will miss his happy face. We are so terribly sorry you had to say goodbye but you did the right thing for him because you loved him so much.
    Sending hugs to you both. Run free Norbert, we love you.
    Dip Elliot and Lynne x

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  29. So sorry for your loss. Having grieved the loss of numerous pets through the years, I know how difficult it is. Take solace in knowing that you gave him a great life.

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  30. I'm so sorry for the loss of Norbert. I will be thinking about you guys and Sid will be sending pug love to all of you. Thank you for sharing Norbert's stories with us through the blog. It allowed us to get to know him and what a special companion he was to you. I'm sure he was also a good friend to all your other pups. You gave him a wonderful life and in turn it sounds like he brought immeasurable joy to you all. He will be dearly missed.

    -Love,
    Brian and Sid.

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  31. What a lovely boy he was. I'm so sorry for your loss and send you much love and good wishes to get through this heart-breaking time.

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  32. While we didn't know your sweet Norbert, we are saddened by this news. It's always hard to lose a furend. Wish wish you peace and comfort during this difficult time. Rest in peace Norbert and may you be forever young once again.

    That is truly a beautiful song.

    Hugs,
    Lily Belle & Muffin

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  33. I am so very sorry. This is a beautiful memorial post. I do believe your wonderful boy will live on in you and your hearts forever too.

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  34. Dear Norbert's family we are so very sorry to read of his passing....he was loved and and he loved....run free handsome boy
    Hugs madi

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  35. I am very sorry for your loss. I am not at all offended by your post, and I am also a religious person. You have such a lovely blog and I enjoyed all your photos. God bless you, and I wish you all the best in 2015 and always.

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  36. no matter how long we have them with us they always go too soon. i'm glad you were able to give him such a wonderful life full of love, and you loved him enough to know when it was time to let him go and not let him suffer. it is so so hard to make that decision. i like what you said about sharing the love you have for him with a new dog in your life. i really believe in that idea, when we lost our first pug it was do devastating, but getting Phyllis from animal control helped me to heal.

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  37. So sorry for this loss and so grateful that you and Norbert were blessed with each other for his lifetime.

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  38. Oh, I'm so sorry to catch up on your posts and see the news. I'm sorry you didn't get more time, but there is really no amount of time that would ever be "enough," is there? He'll always be with you in your hearts because love never dies. Hang in there.

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  39. I'm so, so sorry. I fell behind in reading and have been trying to catch up. I'm all over the place in terms of your posts, but I'll get there.

    I had no idea Norbert was even ill and I'm so sorry I wasn't here to offer you some support. I'm so grateful you found Norbert and he had you and your husband to offer him so much love. I know he knew how much you loved him.

    If there is anything you need from me, please let me know. In the meantime I shall send you a giant HUG and know I am thinking of you all

    Run fast, run free Norbert.

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